This is a bit off-topic, but it is WAHM Wednesday AND Mother’s Day is coming. I have been thinking a lot about Mother’s Day gifts lately, not for my own mother because she passed away in 2004. I am not thinking about Mother’s Day gifts for myself either.
When I say that I am thinking about Mother’s Day gifts I don’t mean that I am thinking about flowers, chocolates, or candy. Although, it is true that most mothers do enjoy flowers, chocolates, and candy.
What I’ve been reflecting on has more to do with the relationship between mothers and children.Â It has a lot to do with the relationship between my mother and me.
First of all, now that I am a mother, I have to say that motherhood has not always been what I imagined that it would be. Yeah, the picture perfect moments do come and I cherish each one. But overall motherhood is a lot harder than I ever imagined that it would be.
What makes motherhood so hard? It’s not really being on duty 24/7, although that IS hard. It’s not really being on-duty when you’re feeling sick, although that IS hard too. It’s not even getting up in the middle of the night to feed, change, or comfort your child–although that is hard.
What do I find to be the hardest thing about motherhood? It’s the constant concern that you have for your child. It’s the nagging questions that keep you awake in the middle of the night. It’s the nameless fear that your child will make a wrong choice. And yes, it’s the fear for the safety of your child.
I know that my mother had these types of fears. I can remember how, each time our part of the country experienced severe weather, she would call to check on me. If my mother were still alive I would have received that call last night because my area was under a tornado watch.
So, what is the greatest gift a child can give to a mother? I believe that it is the gift of peace of mind. It is a peace of mind that the mother can only have when she realizes that her child is now mature and responsible enough to make the right choices and decisions on their own.
I believe that I did give that gift to my mother before she died.Â The reason that I think I gave it to her is because she called me in to help with my Dad’s Alzheimer’s care. I don’t think she would have done that if she had thought that I wasn’t responsible enough or mature enough to handle it.
What can you do now to give this gift to your own mother this Mother’s Day? I don’t believe that you need to wait until your parents are elderly or one of them is ill. You can begin building this gift right now.Â No matter how old you are or how old your mother is, start building trust. Make right choices, even when it’s difficult. Choose the choices that you know would make your mother proud.
Start giving your mother the gift of peace of mind.
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